Read you like a book
There are moments that I always sit quietly and looking at people around me. Hearing what they says; watching how they response and react; figuring whats in their mind; and etc. Not to say pervert lar, but I’d found this actually interesting.
Every single person is like a book.
A person might like a thick book, where he / she have their life filled with different things and experiences. A person might like a thin book, where he / she just have a simple and repetitive life.
Inside the book, we are not know what are the contents until we open it up and read it. If we didnt read into it and just look on the cover’s title, we only know the title. What are the contents is mostly what we assume or imagine of. Same for a person, if we did not go and understand further but only willing to see on their surface to assume and imaging how this person are, then it is only based on our personal bias thinking to know this person.
When reading into a person, often I’m very sensitive on the words they choose to speak, the vocal they used, and also how they react non-verbally. All these aspects are to be considered at the same time. If only looking at one or two aspects, we might miss out the overall understanding to person (Although life is not fair, but it is better for us to not mis-judge one person so easy =P).
Actually it is very easy to understand a person by the considering the 3 aspects above. For example, optimist choose encouraging words when they speaks, despite good or bad condition; pessimist will try their best to choose discouraging words no matter situation is good or bad. Some people might react overwhelming on small issue, and some react calmly even big case happening. All these observations are not for us to conclude this person is good, that person is bad, he is strange, she is normal, etc etc.
Every person is their own book of themselves, you can’t go change the content of the book by putting your own thoughts. Unless that person allow you to be the author of their book, allow you to write their story and live the way you written. But this act is kinda nasty and full of selfishness, and mostly it is not possible to do it. Don’t waste your time and energy to do so.
Whenever we meet a person, no matter we have know them for a long time or just met them, read them like a book joyfully. It helps strengthen your bond with the person, reduce conflicts, and help you live a better life too.
Enjoy reading, and enjoy the world =)
